Recently i received this e-mail,

"Hi, im sorry i need your help

I am taking my girlfriend for granted, I m afraid she will break up with me

after a time of not being there for my girlfriend I showed her this weekend i really did love her and she loved me too. the whole weekend was great
i usually dont see her trough out the week

but this afternoon i got a text from her and i didnt reply to it,
I was just not in the mood to send anything and then i forgot it

She was really hoping that i would send her something back, which i did not
which let her in the cold, she thinks now the weekend didnt mean as much to me as it meant to her.

and seriously, you hear this a lot. when a guy takes his girl for granted the girl usually breaks up

what should i do"

I had Joan to share his real life experience, to which his reply was,

"well i wont tell you what to do, but i will tell you my story.

i had a gf for about 2 months, then i made your mistake. i kinda abused how much she cared for me. i ended up breaking up with her for about 2 weeks ago, then i realized how much i cared for her and started tryin to get her back. well turns out one of my really good friends had ran to her and comforted her and told her everything she wanted to hear when she was down. so now they were talking behind my back. well this really tore me up and trust me it sucked.... the pain and betrayal was intense.

well by sheer luck i got her back and now me and her are workin things out, but the moral of the story is always tell her how much she means to you, even if it means going out of your way (and never trust certain guys). i didnt miss her till she was gone, and now im so glad to have her back...."

What happens is we men get tire after a while. We don't mean to; We don't get the same feeling we did in the beginning of the fling ... we men like the pursue. We like to win the woman's affections, but after we have accomplished this; once we have her; once we have won her; once we have overcome her; we become bored. We get bored. It becomes routine and we men were not built for routine. We're made to overcome obstacles and conquer.

They, on the other hand, fall even deeper in love. A woman spends 90% of the time thinking about her man, whereas, a man only spends 10%, if that ...

This is critical becuase, YES, we can lose them; we can lose the woman who has been good to us. And believe me when I tell you this, you will pay for it.

You will pay for it with a dry-spell. That is, you'll spend the next several months, if not, years, ALONE.

We don't want this to happen. Absolutely NOT!!! We are better off allowing this operate conditioning (the consequence of losing someone amazing and potentially spending the next several months ALONE) take it's course; we're better off fearing such a consequence and give her the time she demands; she desires; she loves! We are better off giving her what she wants.

If you girlfriend is turning the smallest situation into a big drama, you might think she is erratic, or acting up. In reality, she's probably exhibiting a delayed response to something offensive you said or did in the past. (Picture how tsunami occurs) Women often avoid direct confrontation, and bring their anger out later. So if you blew your girlfriend off to go drinking with the guys, her anger might come out a week later over your inability to properly clean a stove top. Stop these situations before they happen by giving your girlfriend advance warning for the "guy" time in your life. Don't suddenly change or alter plans and leave her hanging in the wind. Plan ahead a little bit. It won't kill you to know what you will be doing on Thursday night, and it will help your relationship with your girlfriend. Remember, even if the fight seems like it's created by your girlfriend, it takes two to fight, and you probably have a hand in the situation. Even if "the fight" seems to be taking place over a bizarre and out of context problem.

Cherish the girl you love, because you never want to lose them forever. You may not be as lucky as Joan. Lastly, action speaks louder than words. Protect that fragile heart of YOURS!