Recently, i was in this conversation with a bunkmate of mine...he asked me, "laochen, why do girls want to marry early?"...my reply to him was, "not all girls want to marry early nowadays, girls who chose to marry early are, exclude the premarital pregnancy here, careful planners...and for those who chose to marry later are either career minded or indecisive, worst still, waiting for him to sound..."

Talking about this, i have a few examples to share...in every relationships, the initial part is building a strong foundation...with a strong foundation, both can withstand obstacles without falling apart...though easier said than done, but it's proven here...

Take my two couple friends, J and X, and, D and J for example of a weak foundation based...J and X had weak foundation from the start that resulted in much insecurities that had built up over time in X...J time and again let her down, taken her for granted, causing seperation to be inevitable...just like a volcano erupting for their case...their relationship though lasted for years but frankly speaking, it's one sided effort in holding it together...lack of understanding and communication resulted in their weak foundation...

As for D and J, their marriage started off with much enthusiasm as both were young...before stabilising or strengthening their foundation, they had a new family member...it's just like uno deck, narrow base, broad body...how much chance do they have that the deck wouldn't collapse, i can say it's near 0%...even if miracally it stays, and both tries to strengthen after that, it is not as easy as it seems...try putting a block into the base of a falling deck...feel fearful? taking a bet? think about that...

The next person i am going to talk about is BB, she is a hard to find species...and i mean it...she values love, marriage, and kinship...she wish to get married early, not out of enthusiasm but sparing a thought for their future and her descendents...i find her perception of early marriage logical to my thinking...she once said, "if you plan to get married at 27, what is the difference when you get married at 18? you both will still be married...early marriage are hard initially, but it gets better over time, provided if you are married to the rightful one..." and here's another, "think about this, 27 will be the year you fred about your big day, or 27 will be the year you bring your wife and kids on a long vacation in Japan? which seems more blissful?"

With her strong will and adaptability, she certainly can take up the early role as a wife and mother...she would be the woman behind a successful man...

The last person i am using as my example is SL, she had a mindset that later marriages means no financial constrain and a stable income...this is so wrong...now she is 28, just registered their marriage early this year but saving for their big day...why is this so? that's because they did not cater for their future, owing much to creditors...value of money has never been a problem, now it is...

In conclusion, early marriages with strong foundation will be the victory one...ha ha...and they would value money more than those with no commitment, making full use of their income...i agree...